| September 1, 2006 | Keeping An Open Mind |
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We live in a complicated world. Things move fast and people are often quick to get into relationships for the wrong reasons. We might be lonely or unfulfilled and hope that a partner will "make" us feel better. We might be frightened to be on our own and hope that someone will take care of us and protect us from a terrifying world. We might be love-starved, never having gotten enough from our family and ready to take anything someone is willing to give us. The reasons go on and on. It is clear however that lasting relationships are not easy for most people to achieve. In a society where 50% or more of marriages result in divorce the need to examine relationship building seems apparent. In this issue of the Newsletter I discuss relationships and relationship building from an individual's point of view. In the first article, "Serious Love Relationships", I explain what sometimes motivates people to enter into relationships in the first place. This is a complex issue and admittedly I only scratch the surface. In the next article, "Looking At Yourself First", I pose some important questions I believe people should ask themselves when getting into a serious l... |
Serious Love Relationships
There are many reasons for getting into a serious love relationship (marriage). I think most would agree that humans need and want love and companionship. Choosing a partner to fulfill that need over the long haul however can be tricky. Strong chemistry between a man and a woman is a wonderful stimulant. It can be the driving force for making decisions about the future. But chemistry alone does not necessarily predict the success of a relationship. In fact it can cloud one's thinki... |
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Looking At Yourself First
In the previous article I discussed how choosing a long term partner may be compelled by inner forces unknown to us. We are complex creatures and are often not clear about what drives or motivates us. When you enter into a relationship that begins to take a serious path ask yourself the following questions: 1) Am I feeling needy? Do you feel as though, without this person in your life, you would become mentally, physically and emotionally impoverished? If so, think about why?... |
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