Newsletter

August 1, 2009 Keeping An Open Mind

What is compatibility?

Many couples who feel they have it might describe themselves as having a sense of harmony in their relationship. It generally comes from having similar likes and dislikes and sharing the same goals.

Often people with similar backgrounds and heritage will gravitate towards each other. They frequently experience an instant affinity, a sense that they feel comfortable together.

However, people don’t have to come from the same backgrounds to be compatible. The most common traits compatible couples share is having similar values, similar likes and dislikes and a similar worldview or perspective. They don’t always have to agree but they often do.

So here’s the question for compatible (and incompatible) couples alike: Are you sexually compatible?

In a Newsletter I published a few years back I offered a 21 question quiz for couples who wanted to know the answer to that question.

I got some very interesting feedback on that Newsletter so I thought I would publish it again this summer adding some additional questions.

I recommend that you take the quiz separately and then compare your answers. This test s... Please read on

Are You Sexually Compatible?

The Sexual Compatibility Quiz

Please rate each statement with one of the following:
Completely Agree (5 points); Sometimes Agree (4 points); Neutral (3 points) or Never Agree (2 points).

When you are finished rating all the statements add up your individual scores, add them together, divide by 2 and check the score key at the end of the quiz for your compatibilty score.

1. It is not necessary for both partners to always be enthusiastic about having sex.
2. Each partner must be willing to initiate sex.
3. Setting specific time aside for sex is necessary.
4. I want my partner to be spontaneous when it comes to sex.
5. I would understand if my partner was not in the mood for sex.
6. It is best if a couple is direct with each other about their sexual needs.
7. Once an emotional commitment is made fidelity is expected.
8. Sex can be both playful as well as serious.
9. Being sexual with each other often involves more than just the sexual act.
10. Each partner needs to feel satisfied that they are enjoying sex equally.
11. Both partners should be open to sexual experimentation.
12. I want m... Please read on