Newsletter

June 1, 2009 Keeping An Open Mind

Summer is about to begin, June 21st technically being the first day. Summer is typically the time when people relax a bit more, take vacations and begin new relationships.

Some summertime romances may have the potential of lasting a while but most generally have a short life span.

Summer relationships are often thought of as the province of the young, students out of school or twenty- somethings on vacation.

However, many singles, regardless of age, become a little more adventuresome during the summer and take chances they might not otherwise take the rest of the year.

In this issue of the Newsletter I thought it would be helpful to offer some tips for those who wish to make better judgments in evaluating a potential mate. These guidelines are valid regardless of the season.

Let’s lift the haze about what characteristics we can red flag as predictably damaging to creating a good relationship with someone. Although nobody can predict with absolute certainty what combination of two personalities will fail or succeed, putting the odds in your favor can only help.

No matter what type of person you seem to attract or ar... Please read on

Red Flag Personalities

The beginning is always the most fun isn’t it? It can be romantic, exciting and often very sexual. It is at this time that one’s tendency to correctly evaluate the character of the person s/he is connecting with is often compromised by all that chemistry.

It is important to have an open mind when meeting new people. However, it is equally as important to be as perceptive as possible when you are about to trust someone with your feelings. In this article I lay out some negative characteristics to look out for in evaluating a potential partner.

The key in evaluating is to look for a consistent pattern of behavior. Some of the following personality traits can appear occasionally in any of us. It is only when these traits appear with consistency should your antenna go up.

The Critical Person: This type of person might at first appear to be supportive of you but, on closer scrutiny, finds fault with the things you do or say, the people you associate with and even the choices you make. There may be snide remarks or “gentle” put downs that seem to occur more often than you find comfortable. You may tend to let these go beca... Please read on