| May 31, 2007 | Keeping An Open Mind |
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For most professionals who counsel couples the call for help comes about a year or more into the conflict. Couples struggling with conflict are notorious for waiting until they are about to disintegrate before seeking therapy. Of course there are couples that recognize trouble early on and take the initiative to short circuit disaster, but there are fewer of those. In this month’s Newsletter I discuss the attributes of what I call “High Performance Couples”. These are couples that have developed the skills necessary to create a relationship that works well for them. The partners are reasonably comfortable with each other and are often satisfied with the way they handle their differences. This does not mean that these couples are perfect, far from it. What it does mean is that they have learned how to work together with dignity. In the article that follows I have created a list of the characteristics of High Performance Couples. I hope they will inform and educate you as well as help you to improve your relationship. I welcome your comments or questions about this topic or any other topic you might be interested in. Please consider sharing this ne... |
High Performance Couples
Couples who work well together are not just born to be together. More often than not they have struggled to create a relationship that works for both of them. Partners are not made for each other in Heaven, there is no Santa Clause and, sorry to say, sitting around waiting for a miracle to solve your relationship problems doesn’t work! Read what real people do to make things work for them. Effective Communication: There is no substitute for effective communication. Couples will often misunderstand or misinterpret each other’s remarks or intentions. One partner might make an assumption about what the other should know and be disappointed when the other partner doesn’t deliver, respond well or meet the other’s needs. |
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